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Are you still being fingered?

I was having one of my random thought moments about people I know, people on my timelines, just people in general.
And I had a random thought…
Are women still getting fingered?

Not that quick finger action jus to get in there… I mean that real deal Holyfield, lay back or bend over finger working action that goes on for more than 10 mins?

As a teen, being able to finger a girl was as amazing as penetration…ish.
Obviously it wasn’t better, but you really liked to be able to have your finger between the warm sugar walls.
But as you get older, and hopefully, your sex game steps up, do you, as a man, or woman loving woman, still take time out to work ya fingers between those lips?

By the time you get to a certain age in your sexual career, you learn a whole bunch of new tricks and treats that turn a woman on, make her crunch her thighs and scream like a Mariah high note.
Some of these things were so amazing and made her make such wicked sounds, you MASTERED them.

Now you spend more time working on your stroke, the intensity of your head game, the choice of position, etc.
But, you also have to remember the basic, yet fulfilling, feeling of a good old work of a finger or three.
Trust me, a woman reading this will tell you the joys and joys of how good a finger or two can feel.
Not only can they feel like an introduction to how good the dick may POSSIBLY feel, they can also bring on a nice starting orgasm before any penetration has taken place.
And no one says no to an orgasm.

Plus, for the fingerer, to be able to induce an orgasm using just your finger kinda makes you wanna brush ya shoulder off a lil. The more intense the orgasm, the more you brush your shoulder off.
A multiple orgasm as the result of good fingering is the sexual equivalent of a black man becoming President. Ok, not that extreme… But…
It is a good feeling.

My personal favourite is that moment when you have a finger or two inside her and she is laying back or sitting up and her hips are grinding. Her waist is circling and she is working the fingers, trying to get the best feeling out of em…

That’s my most delicious.

I appreciate fingering.
I’m a fan 100 grand.
Too many situations to bring it in too.
I mean, let’s break it down.

From the foreplay, a fingering can help fill a hole… (That’s too easy…)

Combine a fingering with some oral sex and, trust me, she won’t say NO to ya. She may cum for ya actually. She may come a few times if you do it like me. She may KEEP cumming actually. You may enjoy her cumming so much that you keep her cumming. She may keep cumming and you get to a point where you don’t want her to STOP cumming. And she might ask you to stop because she can’t stop cumming. But you like the sound of that so you make her cum more.
Then you snap out of it and you look up and she’s breathing heavily and you look down and your fingers are dripping. (OoOoOoOo, ok, I got lost in that one a bit.)

There’s even good finger time to be used during penetration.
Maybe that might be on a different level for you but, if you’ve ever been fucked while fingered at the same time, it can be a good look. Obviously I don’t mean like three or four fingers. But just a solo finger alongside the dick and see what she thinks.
She just might like it.

THAT is the moment when you enjoy a finger.

As the fingerer and the fingeree, your both happy.

I hope you haven’t gotten to old in the game that you no longer work your finger or allow yourself some finger time with your respective other.
Remember a finger used to be all you ever needed.

By Mr Oh

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I love that spot


I don’t know what to call this.
Some would say it’s a dedication, some would say it’s a moment of appreciation, some would say I’m just being my usual perverted self, but whatever you wanna call this, enjoy it.

Because I do.
I just love to sometimes kneel down and look at it face-to-skin. Sometimes I like to run my tongue over it and enjoy the curve I know is coming. Marvel at it with my eyes open, feel it with my eyes closed. Maybe go in with my hands as well. Who knows. The possibilities are endless.
And that’s why I love this piece of human real estate.
You can find this beautiful piece of land behind every woman who has herself with a nicely shapely behind(or if she doesn’t have an ass, it’s not as sexy).
And she has a nice little spot that curves from her back to her ass.
You know the one.
That spot you rest your hand so you’re not touching her ass, but you can get a nice gauge on its size just from that spot.
I can’t explain how that’s possible but men who have a lady in their life who has quite a caboose attached to her rear knows about that spot.
Maybe your not recognising it because I’m talking about it in a sexy, romantic slide your hand onto it while you kiss sort of way. If I called it ‘that diamond spot that forms on her back when your hitting it doggystyle and holding her cheeks at the same time’ spot, maybe that would make more sense.

It’s nothing but skin. Really.
It’s not like it comes with toys on the front like nipples or a treasure trove of mystery like the lady garden.
It’s just… skin.
But there is just something so damn sexy about it.
Usually a spot where you’ll find something tattooed, this spot is a BEAUTIFUL tool in the art of seduction.
OH, don’t think I’m playing…
If you think I’m playing then you have a LOT to learn.
If done correctly, a smooth hand on the small of a woman’s back can create a hold ya breath moment for her and, if your kissing her just right, you’ve got yourself a beautiful thang.
Simple things like running your hand up and down a woman’s back can heighten a moment when she wants to feel like she’s being taken care of by a MAN… strong hands and all.
Obviously, you don’t grab the woman up like your trying to pull her spine out but strong hands up and down her back, up into her neck, maybe into her hair, you pull it a little bit, she sighs, her neck is exposed… take it… like it’s calling… let your other hand wander down her back…
Down. To. That. Spot!

And pull her close.
I don’t know about you and I can’t explain why I like it but… it’s just a dandy place to touch.
Intimate… in a way…

Definately intimate when she is bent over and her ass is in the air and he has his hands above your bouncing behind, holding onto that spot for dear life. (If you’re playing the pull-out game, it’s also a nice spot to shoot on, but you already know that… that’s IF she can’t drop down, flip around and open wide.)
If she has her back to you, it’s at the bottom of the curve of her back… just in case.
Really, it doesn’t matter which end you get to put your hands or tongue on this spot, but if it’s been something you’ve just glossed over in the past, take note.
Play with it. You don’t have to admit you read it and used it.
That’s fine. Go ‘head!
Trust me, it’s one of those little things that you combine with a nice touch, a gentle kiss and the sweetest eye connection.
How about I give you an example…

In he walks. There she is.
Standing there.
She looks at him. Her eyes reading him, hoping he’ll do what she is thinking in her head.
Just take her.
Whisk her off her feet. Make her feel like there is nothing else in the world but them in the moment.
He is staring at her. Naked.
Admiring her beauty.
Slowly, he moves towards her, watching her anticipate his next move.
Their eyes locked, speaking.
Having and enjoying the moment in their minds before they’ve even touched.
He licks his lips. She feels her nipples harden.
She licks her lips. He watches them glisten the closer he gets.
His lips are inches from hers.
They can feel the warmth of their bodies radiating against each other.
Her hands reach either side of his head and lock around his neck.
His hands slide onto her cheeks, looking into her eyes.
They both close their eyes.
The anticipation of their lips meeting is electric.
Delicious.
She sucks in a deep breath, taking in the essence of him as he sucks her bottom lip.
His left hand slides onto her neck, across her hairline while his other hand travels down her shoulders.
He let’s his fingers loose down her spine…
Slowly slipping down… into that spot.
Just above her ass.
A nice, strong place to pull her closer in.

There’s no frills and spills to this spot. It’s just skin.
But it’s more than that.
It’s like the feeling of an intention.
I COULD touch your ass, which is lovely and splendid and grabalicious, but I don’t want to.
I wanna touch… JUST above it.
I like that spot.
I REALLY do.

By Mr Oh

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Good clitoral behaviour


Here’s a question that didn’t make the ‘Questions for Grown freaks’ blog post but…

Women, how many men would you have thrown out of your bed, or how many beds would you have gotten out of if the other person didn’t know the correct prim and proper clitoris behaviour?
Would you have had as much sex as you’ve had if you got yo ass out the bed when said person treated your clit with the disrespect it didn’t deserve?

Clitoral behaviour is basic, old school training that everyone and their mama should know about. Ya mama probably knows about it too, though its not the type of thing you wanna think about.
Men may not realise but clitoral behaviour is very VERY important. It’s important to do it well but it’s also important to know it so you can do it right…

It wasn’t in any sex education class, nor did ya bredrins tell you about it when they spun their tales of sexual conquests.
The first time seeing pussy, I remember looking at a clitoris and thinking, ‘what the hell pleasure can you get from that little thing? Looks like the power button on a TV remote.’
Turns out there’s a lot of pleasure to be found behind the hood of a clitoris.
For some women, it’s more pleasurable than intercourse.
Many a man has met a woman thinking he is going to get some, only to get some clit play and sent on his way, pissed off.
But the clit is more than a power button… well… it IS a power button.
Press it the right way and you will get better than HD/3D results live.

Clitoral behaviour is about how you approach it, how you touch it, how you treat it, feel it, blow it, lick it, be one with it, define it… do what the hell it tells you to!
A woman’s whole libido can be thrown out the window if ya fingers are too eager to get between her smile without stopping at her clitoris. And if ya clit technique isn’t respectful, that’s another way to change a mood.
Or… and this is the worst, if ya getting hot and bothered and you, as a man, think ‘we’ve been kissing and grinding and groping long enough, I’m taking a finger and I’m going in.’ You slide a hand in, only to have it moved back UP to the clit.
Plenty of men have had this done and felt that momentary iota of shame, like, ‘dammit, should’ve gone clit first’.

So, first rule of clitoral behaviour…
Always go clit first when indulging in finger play. IF you know you have her wet enough to go finger first then do so but remember, playing with her clit can make her wet (if she isn’t) or make her wetter.

Next rule of good clitoral behaviour is about your method of massage. Now THIS rule is a very important one and your attention should be fully paid here. Why? Because you are, in essence, challenging her. I’ll explain…
A woman masturbates. And, when a woman masturbates, it’s something different to when a man does.
(Besides the obvious differences.)
A man wraps and works and that’s basically it, maybe he’ll spit on his palm first or lotion up but the premise is the same. So when it comes to a woman jerking him off, she is challenging his OWN technique to see if her own way of doing it matches up with his enough to make him come.

But, a woman, in all her splendorous splendor, needs more than just one way of working it when it comes to her clit.
When a woman plays with herself, fast fingers work but slow fingers also work. Up and down with one can be righteous at the RIGHT time but small circles with three fingers (two holding the lips open and one circling) can make her grab for the sheets.
She might enjoy two quick fingers brushing across from left to right, or a strong, periodic flick at the right time.
So many ways…

Where was I…?

Ah yes… paying attention…

The reason I said to pay attention is because, if you’ve managed to have her in a few different situations such as phone sex or been able to watch her masturbate, then you already know what she needs and how she needs it.
You already have the answers to the question she is asking in her head, which is, ‘will this motherfucker even know where my clit is?’
If you’re meeting someone new, and you haven’t crossed those voyeuristic bridges yet, then you’d have to go in blind. But, you gotta pay the same attention.
Pay attention to her.
Going in blind means you have to feel for her feeling.
Don’t think you can mimic ya trigger finger during a COD: Black Ops session on her clit.

Come on son.
Have some finesse with it.

Try different massages and finger combinations until you find that thang that makes her inhale her own breath, that makes her hug you real tight, that magically delicious thing that makes her hips start to wine and grind on ya fingers. (That’s quite easy to do when you have a finger or two inside her, but get her hips moving with some finger combinations on just her clit and you’ll feel proud of yourself.)
Once you found that something that she likes, don’t stick with it, keep it percolating… find what ELSE she likes, but keep THAT move in ya mental roladex.

Next rule of good clitoral behaviour is a short and simple one. Always remember, and never forget, to EXPOSE the clit. Before you play with it, lick it, grind on it, always expose it. A clit with a hoodie is like going to the hairdressers or barbers and having the best hairstyle ever, then covering it with a trucker cap. No one is getting to REALLY benefit.
You can play with a clit over the hood and be fine and dandy, but to let it out, free and exposed, that’s straight contact. And nothing beats straight contact.
Finger or tongue, nothing beats straight contact.

Next rule is… not to forget the clit!
Due to the fact that there are plenty of other good , fun, curvy rides on your theme park, men like to try and explore them all. And, okay, SOMETIMES, we forget about the rides we started on.
We can START there, move onto the having a finger inside, nipples reach mouths, panties come off, things wrap up, things slip in and before you know it, the casabah is rocking.
This is not true of all of us but it does happen.
If you know what ya doing then you already keep the clit alive and throbbing in whatever position you can reach it in. Even if you can’t reach it, you still seek it. (Doggystyle)
Good example of such is if a woman is on top and working like she’s TRYING to make you come.
Reach for it yes.
Good way to display her multi-tasking skills. Because if she’s got you right where she needs you, the introduction of clit play will bring another level of pleasure. She may try and move ya hand. But notice I did say TRY.

I can’t throw in a rule about how to EAT a pussy using good clitoral behaviour… every man is different… plus I’ve blogged about such subjects before (see: Submissive Pussy Eaters and All about eating pussy… tips, tricks & secret licks)
But I will say be gentle with it.
Again, exposing the clit let’s you get that straight contact. And even if your technique sucks (pardon the pun) she can at least get something out of it, hopefully.
Put your tongue in the same gear as ya finger was before and make it work for ya.
Since you’re there, dip ya tongue inside a few times then come back to the clit for a VERY nice sound from her. (Go head, try it, I’ll wait…)

While I’m waiting, I’ll finally say that the basics of good clitoral behaviour all start and end with paying attention to her!
If you know how your lady likes her lower level played with then you already know what your doing, but, for someone tasting someone new for the first time, you gotta make sure pay attention to her.
It’s so simple and, really if we did it more when it came to observing good clitoral behaviour, you’d probably be squirting by now (unless your one of those lucky ladies who changes her sheets REGULARLY!)

In a situation where you feel you are displaying good behaviour and she takes ya hand or fingers and SHOWS you how to do it, OBVIOUSLY you might feel a little way about it. Like you don’t know what your doing. But don’t take it so.
Take the guide and the movement hints and make it work for ya.
Adapt it… but not too much… she might it like just like that…

Just… like… that…

So the next time you have the opportunity to make with the massage at clit o’clock, take these rules with you and see how well you observe good clitoral behaviour.

If you’ve done it right then she will be letting you know how well you did.

By Mr Oh

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Will a finger find a foreign land?

 

Not everyone finds ass play, booty inquiring, tootie tickling fun…

Not EVERYONE’s cup of Kool-Aid…

To a vast majority of people, getting involved with another person’s ass is NOT on their checklist of things to do before they die. In fact, it’s probably on a list of things they WOULDN’T do.

I remember a conversation about such play on Twitter the other day, with some people not wanting to even HEAR about any sort of sex that involves ass play.

Women are more open to having their asses played with and or penetrated.

It’s a fact. A pretty easy one actually.

Some women like nothing better than a dick in their ass at the right time to have them screaming like a white girl getting daggered for the first time.

Some women like their assholes licked and flicked a little.

You may not be INTO that but they are and you don’t HAVE to indulge; it’s a lot harder to get someone to lick a woman’s ass than it would be to…. say… taste her juice from her fingers.

(Some people aren’t into that either… that’s for another post.)

But where women are more open to a lil bit of booty rooty, men tend to FROWN upon that sort of thing when THEIR asses are involved.

Less a frown, more a ‘nuh uh… that is NOT gonna happen in this MOTHERFUCKING lifetime’.

If your not sure if you have one of these men in front of you, try this out. This is a good scientifically-proven test that will tell you if you have a man who won’t mind or a guy who will stop ANY proceeding if he feels you getting too close.

Do exactly that.

Get TOO close.

Drop it on him while your giving him head. That’s when he’s most distracted.

Even if your not into ass play yourself, just get a little close. Close enough that he knows there’s no where else for you to go but… THERE.

Do it with one finger.

That’ll really make the decision quicker.

At this point, he’ll do one of two things…

Either he’ll let your finger keep on going where it’s going… and if you’re not into sticking your finger up your man’s ass then you need to commit or jump ship.

OR…

He’ll slop his dick out of your mouth and move his hips as far away from you as possible. Followed by a look that is 100% ‘WHAT THE FUCK!”

Men, in general, see ass play related to a homosexual experience and, no STRAIGHT man likes to even think of himself engaging in ANYTHING that could be related to GAY sex.

Even those that front and act like they would never, in this life and the afterlife, do anything with their ass, yet they’ve had a finger or two up there during a nice slop job.

Where’s the pleasure in it?

How can a man benefit from having a woman’s finger or tongue anywhere near his ass?

What’s the point?

Why play with my ass when I got a whole lotta dick right here?

Well… for those that DO DO it, they don’t mind going there.

They’ve experienced the feeling of a finger or face going lower than the ball sack and even lower than the tube that carries the babies…

They may not have expected it but, once she’s there, they haven’t stopped her.

May have been a bit apprehensive to kiss her afterwards, but, again, they didn’t stop her.

For some, you have to develop a very DEEP level of comfortability to go there with another person. Others like it all the time.

But for those that don’t, it’s hard to explain the feeling and the POWER of the orgasm you have when there’s a finger inside you.

Frown if you want to, screw up ya face if you think to, stop reading if you have to, but it’s a fact.

How I know is my GAWD DAMN business but trust me; get yourself a thick-lipped, thick thighed chocolate lady.

Someone who KNOWS how to suck a dick, because that’s very important when taking a finger.

It’s works as a distraction of sorts.

Make sure she is able to produce that REALLLL wet, sounds like she’s drowning, head. Again, like a distraction.

Then just go for it.

I can’t make it any more simpler than that.

He may like it, he may not, but you have to be grown and know that the person your with is willing to be grown enough to explore that possibility.

If your not, then keep it pussy and work your corner.

As I said before, ass play ain’t for every man or woman.

You’ll quicker find a woman who doesn’t mind a dick, finger or tongue in her ass than you will man who will TELL you to put a finger in his ass.

There ARE some guys out there who do like it but keep on it on the downlow. It’s not something they want to be screaming from the top of Canary Wharf that they like a cold, sloppy finger in the shooter.

But whether you do or you don’t, there’s nothing wrong with it.

It’s another aspect of sex that you do or you don’t indulge in.

You do if you do and you won’t if you don’t.

But don’t be scared to ever explore the possibility of such an event in your life.

It IS worth the orgasm…

But, AGAIN, my business is my GAWD DAMN business…

Teeeeheeeheeee….

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